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Lessons in Sexual Seduction

Melt Her Mind

Stimulate the organ between her ears

Seduction begins above the shoulders, so her satisfaction may depend on the attention you pay to her mind. Even the pinnacle of sex, the orgasm, can be a cognitive process that’s separate from erotic or sexual context, says Barry Komisaruk, Ph.D., coauthor of The Science of Orgasm. Here are some brainy ways to arouse her.

1. Write a Sexual Script
Coauthor an erotic story by text-messaging episodes to each other. As you end your episode with a sexual cliff-hanger, she picks up the tale. A 2006 study showed that fertile women looking for casual sex found men with creative intelligence more desirable than men with money. So ditch the primal phrases (“I want you so bad”) and use your imagination. And women are tired of typo-ridden booty calls, says sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D. “It’s a novel turn-on if you can articulate your passion in a way that engages her.”

Brain effect: One study found that women have more gray matter dedicated to language than men do. “Anything that plays to her inherent strengths and puts her in the role of director is always going to be hot for her,” Fulbright says.

The key: Leave your first message open-ended, such as “What would you do if . . .” When you’re alone together later, play out your script.

2. Watch and Learn
Indie or foreign films are often candid about sex — it’s stealth porn. The artsy context will nullify her inhibitions. See the Independent Film Channel’s 50 Greatest Sex Scenes in Cinema at Try 9 Songs or Y Tu Mamá También.

Brain effect: “You need to turn off her amygdala, the fear and anxiety part of her brain,” says Fulbright. “A relaxed mind and body allows her sexual response to kick in more fluidly.” Women’s brains quickly respond to erotically charged images, one study found. Emotion helps, too. Levels of oxytocin, the chemical that kindles trust and bonding, rise in women after they watch romantic-movie clips with supportive husbands or boyfriends, according to University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill researchers.

The key: Don’t be passive. When a hot scene ends, ask her what she’d do differently if she were directing, and volunteer to be the male lead.

3. Solve the Sex Puzzle
While lounging with the Sunday paper, propose a race to see who can finish a puzzle like sudoku first. Winner gets a sexual favor.

Brain effect: Dopamine, one of the neurotransmitters behind arousal, is activated by a reward. “Getting her excited in nonsexual ways will translate to a higher likelihood of sexual arousal,” says Daniel Amen, M.D., the author of Sex on the Brain.

The key: There should be plenty of playful touching and caressing so that by the end you’re both worked up. Nix the trash talking and the victory dance, too. A little competition is good, but a lot can be a turn-off.

4. Set a Musical Mood
Covertly load a specially chosen playlist onto her MP3 player.

Brain effect: Certain brain regions fire up before sex, and a study found that similar ones become active if she connects emotionally to the tunes. “For women, foreplay is everything that happens in the 24 hours preceding sex,” says Louann Brizendine, M.D., a neuropsychiatrist at the University of California at San Francisco, and the author of The Female Brain. “Your goal is to build a context for sex.”

The key: Upbeat songs that are harmonious can activate the pleasure center of her limbic system, a McGill University study found. Organize your songs to mimic the stages of arousal, from playful (“Who Let You Go?” by the Killers) to passionate (“Little of Your Time” by Maroon 5) to intense (“Summer Love” by Justin Timberlake).

Upgrade Her Orgasm: This position could be her key to satisfaction
Orgasms are better if they’re reached during intercourse, according to a 2007 survey in Sexual and Relationship Therapy. Of 1,256 women surveyed, those who had achieved vaginal orgasm were more satisfied with their sex lives, mental health, and personal relationships than those who had never had a vaginal orgasm. In one study, the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) helped women gain a 56 percent increase in orgasms during sex. It allows the base of the penis to stimulate the clitoris. Its intimacy helps her achieve a stronger orgasm, faster, says sex therapist Aaron Pierce, Ph.D.

1. From the missionary position, shift your pelvis forward so that the base of your penis is pressed against her clitoris.

2. Rest on your elbows. Wrap her legs around your thighs, so her ankles rest on your calves.

3. As she raises her pelvis, you exert firm counterpressure by holding your hips steady. On the downward movement, propel your hips down as she counters with upward resistance.


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